Matthieu Ricard’s Thought of the Week

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Anger and hatred are our real and constant enemies. It is they, not our temporary adversaries, that we need to fight and conquer. As we have not trained our minds to weaken their power to harm, those emotions continue to disrupt and negate all our efforts for inner peace.

Summarized and adapted from Les voies spirituelles du bonheur, Presses du Chatelet, Paris, 2002; Points Sagesse, Seuil, 2004. English version: The Compassionate Life, Shambhala 2003

FOURTEENTH DALAI LAMA, TENZIN GYATSO (B. 1936)

Matthieu Ricard 
Buddhist Monk, Photographer, Author and Humanitarian

Weight Loss Motivation Tips

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◼️Create goals but make them manageable. Don’t set a goal that’s likely far in the future and don’t set one that’s to easy either. You’ll find that your goals may change over time, so make them small and short term.

◼️Imagine a fitter, healthier you. Imagine yourself fitting into those skinny jeans, or crossing that finish line. Focusing on actually accomplishing your goals will keep negativity at bay and allow you to push forward. Practice visualization for just 10 minutes a day simply by closing your eyes and picturing yourself getting healthier and slimmer, keying in on how you look and feel, and imagining a more confident, energized, and proud version of yourself.

◼️Always grocery shop with a list, and stick to the list!

◼️If you are going to indulge, remember the “rule of one”. One scoop, one piece, one bit, etc…

◼️Prep ahead. If you know you’re doing something that’s burning a lot of calories. Have a Shakeology available, or veggies & hummus. Healthy, low calorie, good nutrient snacks for when you feel like your energy’s been zapped and you get hangry!

◼️Create a vision board. It helps you to not lose sight of your goals during times you’re feeling low or struggling.

◼️Make a celebration as clothes get too big on you, donate them. This will make you feel good about your accomplishment and good about helping others from the sowing the seeds of your accomplishment!

◼️Do it for YOU. Don’t do it for your boyfriend, or your husband. Don’t do it to get that guy to notice you. You think that’s a real personal motivator, but it’s not. You have to do it for yourself. Because YOU want change, because YOU want better health.

◼️Don’t see rewards in the form of food or desert. Your rewards shouldn’t be food focused, ever. Let rewards be a new top, one size lower. Or go get your hair done, or a mani pedi. Massages are an awesome reward for working your body hard!

 

A Call For Kindness

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“As America figures this all out, I’ll be holding doors for strangers, letting people cut in front of me in traffic, saying good morning, being patient with sales clerks, and smiling at pedestrians as often as I am provided the opportunity. Because I will not stand idly by and live in a world where unconditional love is invisible. Join me in showing love to someone who may not necessarily deserve it, but who needs it. Find your own way to swing the pendulum in the direction of love. Be kind to a stranger today and every day.”

I did not write the above statement. (Wish I did!) It was copied from a friend who copied it from someone else, who copied from someone else. You are welcome to pass it on to all your social media or wherever. Copy and add your town at the bottom.  It will be like an anonymous chain letter for peace!  No risk, no spam, just tell the world WE THE PEOPLE, plan to act in kindness.

This message (so far)  comes to you from Michigan City IN, Chattanooga TN, Waltonville Illinois, Bluford IL, Kalkaska MI, Sugar Run PA, Ellabell GA, Parma ID, Nevada City CA, Redwood City CA, Danville CA, Prescott Wa, Sonoma CA, Santa Rosa CA, Petaluma, CA, Santa Rosa, CA, Rio Rancho, NM, Santa Fe, NM, Edgewood, NM, Elmendorf TX, Matthews, NC, Charlotte NC, Denver, NC, Maiden NC Beckley WV, Hope Mills, NC, Fayetteville, NC, Hunlock Creek,PA, Chandler,AZ, Hainesport,NJ.  Mt Laurel,  Munising, Michigan, Chico, CA,  Green Bay, WI, Nashville, TN, Jersey City, NJ, Flanders, NJ, Mt Arlington, NJ, Flemington, NJ, Cliffwood Beach,NJ, Parkesburg, PA, Hampton Bays, NY, Champions Gate FL, Kissimmee, FL. Orlando, FL, Venice, FL, Telluride, CO, Avon, CO, Westminster, CO, Craig, CO , Lockport, IL, Crestwood, IL, Justice, IL, Chicago IL, Virginia Beach VA, 

10 Ways to Become More Resilient

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A great read over at Our Better Health

 10 Ways to Become More Resilient

What Are You Carrying?

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What are you carrying around with you on your back!??
❓Problems
❓Fears
❓Doubts
❓Insecurities
❓Failures
❓Mistakes
Did you know… exercise is the greatest form of FREE THERAPY!?! 🙌🏽🏋️🏽😅 When you’re into your workout you will notice your problems seem to melt away or seem less significant, or smaller than they were. And answers you were searching for can suddenly appear💙‼️Take the weight off your shoulders and go for a walk. Hit the gym, or stream a workout. But do something for at least 30 minutes a day. As your mind and body get used to the new habit, stress will have its release and you will be able to focus and reach for your goals with a better attitude and a healthier mind and body!

 

Why We Continue To Doubt Ourselves

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Great read @Discovering Your Happiness

Why We Continue To Doubt Ourselves

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Ted-Talk: Why thinking you’re ugly is bad for you

About 10,000 people a month Google the phrase, “Am I ugly?” Meaghan Ramsey of the Dove Self-Esteem Project has a feeling that many of them are young girls. In a deeply unsettling talk, she walks us through the surprising impacts of low body and image confidence—from lower grade point averages to greater risk-taking with drugs and alcohol. And then shares the key things all of us can do to disrupt this reality.

Love yourself first, as you are RIGHT NOW. That’s where you need to start.

Because It Doesn’t Matter

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When people are young they obsess over old people
And staying young
When people are middle aged
They obsess over their lost youth and getting old.
When people are old they obsess about young people
And getting old.
I say…. live your life and forget your age.
If you’re young you will then see the wisdom of the old
If you’re middle aged you will then embrace your life more fully.
If you’re old, it won’t matter, because it doesn’t matter!
💙
#liveyourlife #forgetyourage
XOXO

Are you an empath?

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  1. Do you just know stuff? Like for no reason, you just “know” or “feel” it?
  2. Being in crowds is energizing at first, then it gets really overwhelming.
  3. Not just sharing in, but feeling others emotions acutely. Some times even from afar.
  4. Seeing acts of violence or cruelty, even hearing about something maybe is unbearable and you have to stop listening, seeing or hearing about it.
  5. You KNOW when someone is being dishonest or lying? You can tell when people say one thing but mean another. You may never even tell them you know, but you know.
  6. Your solar plexus chakra gets out of line easily.
  7. You not only lookout for the underdogs, but you hear them and feel them better than others do. You understand their pain.
  8. People come to you to talk, all the time. They see you as the wise one, or the Mom figure.
  9. You get fatigued easily at parties and social events.
  10. You have addictive personality. It can be everything from illegal things to the mundane like chocolate addiction.
  11. You find yourself drawn to holistic medicine, metaphysical events, otherworldly type oddities and things of a mystical or scientific nature.
  12. You love nature?
  13. You love animals?
  14. As much as you love to be with people, alone time is a necessity to recharge?
  15. You simply cannot do things that you don’t enjoy.
  16. And you are not good at faking enjoyment of things you just are not drawn to.
  17. You strive for truth, even when no one else cares.
  18. You are a knowledge seeker? You can’t stand not knowing the answer to something and will never stop looking for that answer.
  19. You’re a daydreaming free spirit at heart!
  20. Routine is a prison.
  21. You gain weight easily.
  22. You deplore narcissists and simply can’t tolerate them
  23. You’re a great listener?
  24. Since you’re not good at faking it, people can find you moody.
  25. You can also appear shy and aloof
  26. You are always looking for deep connections to people, you’re not very good at casual acquaintance relationships. You just don’t understand people having surface level relationships and friendships.

Does a lot of this seem a lot like you? If so, you may be an empath. 

Dance In That Rain!

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I’ve had a SUPER busy, preoccupied kind of week last week.  I just never seemed to find time to blog 😒 and it feels like it’s been forever. So yeah, the week/weekend took me away a bit and definitely distracted me from some of my goals. But I had fun and spent time with doing good things, seeing great friends and spending quality time with the hubby and that made for a great weekend! No regrets!

I was working on G.I.S.H.W.H.E.S. projects all week. Which was so much fun, and since I’m not at allllll artsy, I chose tasks that were close to heart and made up of all kinds of random kindness. Indeed very me. 

I also went to a picnic in the rain to say farewell to a few people we know who are leaving the area. Surprisingly a picnic in the rain (under a shelter) isn’t half bad. The rain was nice. I spent a few extra minutes in the Jeep listening to rain fall on the roof while hubby went ahead to the picnic.  We have a soft top and I love the sound of the raindrops. I nearly fell asleep lol. We ran into our friends Greg & Jade who we haven’t seen in quite a while. It was awesome to catch up and just chill a minute.

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Saturday we went to the New Breed Championships. They are a jiu jitsu,  muy Thai and general mixed martial arts competition. One of our close friends daughter was in competition there for her team/training dojo,  OutFox. It’s crazy how good these kids are. Dedication and commitment mixed with a lot of heart and love for their sport. Keith and I walked away feeling like we just visited a tight community. We are so proud of Lily’s accomplishments. This was her FIRST real competition and she had to go up against someone at a higher skill set than she was in. She held her own and all and all she did am amazing job for her first real go at it competitively. 

We were going to go to Busch Gardens afterwards but it was still rainy and Keith’s till suffering an ankle injury (rain doesn’t help). So we decided to stay home and just have a lazy weekend spending some quality time together. The week was kind of non stop for both of us between work, working out and events going on. We didn’t even hit the computers much. We just wanted some quiet time to make plans, dream and just “be”. 

Then last night and some baaaaaad salsa. Not a great way to end a beautiful week, but I’ll take it because the rest was magical!

That’s where I’ve been, taking a few days technologically low key. And now a new week begins and so does a new round of the fitness program I’m doing as well as getting back to some run training and tweaking our PCS a little more.