𝒇𝒂𝒕𝒆

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“𝑺𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆𝒔 𝒇𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒂 𝒔𝒎𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒔𝒂𝒏𝒅𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒎 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒌𝒆𝒆𝒑𝒔 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒅𝒊𝒓𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒆 𝒅𝒊𝒓𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒏𝒅𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒎 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒔𝒆𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒏 𝒂𝒈𝒂𝒊𝒏, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒎 𝒂𝒅𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕𝒔. 𝑶𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒐𝒖𝒕, 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒐𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒐𝒖𝒔 𝒅𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒅𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒉 𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒃𝒆𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒅𝒂𝒘𝒏. 𝑾𝒉𝒚? 𝑩𝒆𝒄𝒂𝒖𝒔𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒎 𝒊𝒔𝒏’𝒕 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒃𝒍𝒆𝒘 𝒊𝒏 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒇𝒂𝒓 𝒂𝒘𝒂𝒚, 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒅𝒐 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒚𝒐𝒖. 𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒎 𝒊𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖. 𝑺𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒅𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖. 𝑺𝒐 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒅𝒐 𝒊𝒔 𝒈𝒊𝒗𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒐 𝒊𝒕, 𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒑 𝒓𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒊𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒅𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒎, 𝒄𝒍𝒐𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒆𝒚𝒆𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒑𝒍𝒖𝒈𝒈𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒖𝒑 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒔 𝒔𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒅𝒐𝒆𝒔𝒏’𝒕 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒊𝒏, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒂𝒍𝒌 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒊𝒕, 𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒑 𝒃𝒚 𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒑. 𝑻𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆’𝒔 𝒏𝒐 𝒔𝒖𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆, 𝒏𝒐 𝒎𝒐𝒐𝒏, 𝒏𝒐 𝒅𝒊𝒓𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏, 𝒏𝒐 𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒔𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆. 𝑱𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒇𝒊𝒏𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒊𝒕𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒘𝒊𝒓𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒖𝒑 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒌𝒚 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒑𝒖𝒍𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒛𝒆𝒅 𝒃𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒔. 𝑻𝒉𝒂𝒕’𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒇 𝒔𝒂𝒏𝒅𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒎 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒊𝒎𝒂𝒈𝒊𝒏𝒆.
𝑨𝒏𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒊𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒗𝒊𝒐𝒍𝒆𝒏𝒕, 𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒂𝒑𝒉𝒚𝒔𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒍, 𝒔𝒚𝒎𝒃𝒐𝒍𝒊𝒄 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒎. 𝑵𝒐 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒂𝒑𝒉𝒚𝒔𝒊𝒄𝒂𝒍 𝒐𝒓 𝒔𝒚𝒎𝒃𝒐𝒍𝒊𝒄 𝒊𝒕 𝒎𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒃𝒆, 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒏𝒐 𝒎𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒊𝒕: 𝒊𝒕 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒄𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒇𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒉 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒂 𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒔𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒓𝒂𝒛𝒐𝒓 𝒃𝒍𝒂𝒅𝒆𝒔. 𝑷𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒃𝒍𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒃𝒍𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐𝒐. 𝑯𝒐𝒕, 𝒓𝒆𝒅 𝒃𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒅. 𝒀𝒐𝒖’𝒍𝒍 𝒄𝒂𝒕𝒄𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒃𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒊𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒅𝒔, 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒃𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒐𝒇 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒔.
𝑨𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒎 𝒊𝒔 𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒓𝒆𝒎𝒆𝒎𝒃𝒆𝒓 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒎𝒂𝒅𝒆 𝒊𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉, 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒂𝒈𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒗𝒊𝒗𝒆. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒏 𝒃𝒆 𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒆, 𝒊𝒏 𝒇𝒂𝒄𝒕, 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒎 𝒊𝒔 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒓. 𝑩𝒖𝒕 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒔 𝒄𝒆𝒓𝒕𝒂𝒊𝒏. 𝑾𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒎 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒃𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒎𝒆 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒐𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒘𝒂𝒍𝒌𝒆𝒅 𝒊𝒏. 𝑻𝒉𝒂𝒕’𝒔 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒎’𝒔 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕.” 𝑯𝒂𝒓𝒖𝒌𝒊 𝑴𝒖𝒓𝒂𝒌𝒂𝒎𝒊

𝒆𝒎𝒃𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒅𝒐𝒘, 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕. 𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒃𝒆.

𝑬𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒅𝒂𝒓𝒌 𝒄𝒍𝒐𝒖𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒂 𝒔𝒊𝒍𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈.

𝑰𝒕’𝒔 𝒂𝒍𝒘𝒂𝒚𝒔 𝒅𝒂𝒓𝒌𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒃𝒆𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒅𝒂𝒘𝒏.

𝑶𝒖𝒓 𝒄𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒔 𝒊𝒏 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒔 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕, 𝒉𝒐𝒍𝒆𝒔 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒖𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒍𝒆𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒊𝒏. 𝑰𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒘𝒂𝒚 𝒐𝒇 𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒕𝒄𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒇𝒊𝒕 𝒐𝒓 𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒂 𝒏𝒆𝒘 𝒎𝒐𝒍𝒅 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆𝒔 𝒃𝒂𝒔𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒂𝒔, 𝒃𝒂𝒔𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒏 𝒘𝒉𝒐 𝒘𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒘𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒅𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔.

𝑶𝒖𝒓 𝒇𝒂𝒖𝒍𝒕 𝒍𝒊𝒆𝒔 𝒊𝒏 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒆 𝒉𝒐𝒍𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒔𝒆 𝒄𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒔, 𝒕𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒔 𝒊𝒏 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒍𝒆𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎 𝒓𝒖𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒔 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒂𝒖𝒔𝒆 𝒘𝒆 𝒄𝒂𝒏𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒂𝒄𝒄𝒆𝒑𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒔𝒆 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒘𝒉𝒐𝒍𝒆.

𝑰𝒏 𝑲𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒔𝒖𝒈𝒊, 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒑𝒐𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒄𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒎𝒊𝒄𝒔 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒂 𝒈𝒐𝒍𝒅 𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒂𝒄𝒄𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒐𝒔𝒆 𝒔𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆, 𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘𝒍𝒆𝒅𝒈𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒉 𝒑𝒊𝒆𝒄𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒋𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒏𝒆𝒚 𝒂𝒔 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂 𝒗𝒂𝒍𝒊𝒅 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒊𝒎𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒐𝒍𝒆. 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒈𝒐𝒍𝒅 𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒄𝒄𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒄𝒆𝒍𝒆𝒃𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒋𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒏𝒆𝒚, 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒆𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒂𝒖𝒕𝒚 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒕𝒆𝒔𝒒𝒖𝒆.

𝑾𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒘𝒆 𝒔𝒉𝒊𝒇𝒕 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒂 𝒏𝒆𝒘 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒗𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒄𝒆𝒑𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏, 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒌 𝒐𝒍𝒅 𝒎𝒐𝒅𝒆𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒃𝒊𝒕𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒆 𝒉𝒆𝒍𝒅 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒗𝒊𝒐𝒖𝒔𝒍𝒚 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒇𝒆𝒂𝒓, 𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒌, 𝒑𝒂𝒊𝒏 𝒐𝒓 𝒍𝒐𝒔𝒔.

𝑮𝒓𝒐𝒘𝒕𝒉 𝒊𝒏𝒗𝒐𝒍𝒗𝒆𝒔 𝒍𝒆𝒕𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒈𝒐, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒖𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒍𝒆𝒕 𝒈𝒐 𝒐𝒇 𝒂𝒔 𝒂 𝒃𝒖𝒊𝒍𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒃𝒍𝒐𝒄𝒌 𝒐𝒇 𝒇𝒊𝒓𝒎𝒂𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒏𝒔𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏. 𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒈𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒔 𝒖𝒔 𝒂 𝒔𝒐𝒍𝒊𝒅 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒇 𝒂𝒘𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒑 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒖𝒏𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘𝒏, 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒍𝒚 𝒔𝒆𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒔𝒊𝒍𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈. 𝑨𝒔 𝒘𝒆 𝒂𝒄𝒄𝒆𝒑𝒕 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒐𝒇 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒑𝒔 𝒕𝒐𝒘𝒂𝒓𝒅𝒔 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒘𝒆 𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒐𝒘 𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒈𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒅 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒈𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒕𝒖𝒅𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒍𝒆𝒕 𝒈𝒐 𝒐𝒇.

𝑨𝒔 𝒘𝒆 𝒍𝒆𝒕 𝒈𝒐 𝒐𝒇 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒆 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒕, 𝒘𝒆 𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒐𝒘 𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒗𝒆𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒓𝒆𝒄𝒆𝒊𝒗𝒆 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅𝒚 𝒇𝒐𝒓.

𝑨𝒄𝒄𝒆𝒑𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒄𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒔, 𝒇𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒍𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒃𝒆𝒈𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒍𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒏𝒔𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏.

𝑬𝒎𝒃𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒅𝒐𝒘, 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕.

𝑱𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒃𝒆.

𝑩𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏 𝑬𝒈𝒂𝒏

Tigers above, tigers below

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“There is a story of a woman running away from tigers. She runs and runs and the tigers are getting closer and closer.

When she comes to the edge of a cliff, she sees some vines there, so she climbs down and holds on to the vines. Looking down, she sees that there are tigers below her as well. She then notices that a mouse is gnawing away at the vine to which she is clinging. She also sees a beautiful little bunch of strawberries close to her, growing out of a clump of grass. She looks up and she looks down. She looks at the mouse. Then she just takes a strawberry, puts it in her mouth, and enjoys it thoroughly.

Tigers above, tigers below. This is actually the predicament that we are always in, in terms of our birth and death. Each moment is just what it is. It might be the only moment of our life; it might be the only strawberry we’ll ever eat. We could get depressed about it, or we could finally appreciate it and delight in the preciousness of every single moment of our life.”

~ Pema Chödrön, The Wisdom of No Escape: How to Love Yourself and Your World

Sangha

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Gather together your tribe (family, friends and strangers alike) and choose a principal to discuss. See how others can expand your consciousness. See how as a collective you can bring some light into the world through focused discussion. The sangha is a part—together with the Buddha and the dharma (teaching)—of the Threefold Refuge, a basic creed of Buddhism.
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noun: sangha; plural noun: sanghas
  1. the Buddhist community of monks, nuns, novices, and laity.

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Thich Nhat Hahn on the Sangha **
“The trees, water, air, birds, and so on can all be members of our sangha. A beautiful walking path may be part of our sangha. A good cushion can be also.”
The practice of Buddhism should help people re-enter society in order to rediscover and accept the good things that are there in their culture and to rebuild those that are not.”
“If we see a group of people living mindfully, capable of smiling, of loving, we gain confidence in our future.”
“To practice right mindfulness we need the right environment, and that environment is our sangha.”
“When you allow yourself to be in a sangha the way a drop of water allows itself to be in a river, the energy of the sangha can penetrate into you, and transformation and healing will become possible.”
“We don’t have to force ourselves to practice. We can give up all the struggle and allow ourselves to be, to rest. For this, however, we need a little bit of training, and the sangha is there to make the training easy.”
“We are always running, and it is hard for us to stop and be here in the present moment, to encounter life. With sangha you will be able to learn the art of stopping.”
“You don’t sit for yourself alone, you sit for the whole sangha—not only the sangha, but also for the people in your city, because when one person in the city is less angry, is smiling more, the whole city profits.”

 

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**Reprinted from Friends on the Path: Living Spiritual Communities (2002) by Thich Nhat Hanh 

 

Universal Responsibility

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Thought of the Week

Whether others are beautiful or ugly, benevolent or cruel, they are all sentient beings like us. And like us, they want to be happy and not suffer, which is their right, just like us. Recognizing that all beings are equal in their aspirations and their right to happiness, we feel a sense of empathy that brings us closer to them. As we get accustomed to this impartial altruism, we finally experience a sense of universal responsibility.

Summarized and adapted from Les voies spirituelles du bonheur, Presses du Chatelet, Paris, 2002; Points Sagesse, Seuil, 2004. English version: The Compassionate Life, Shambhala 2003

FOURTEENTH DALAI LAMA, TENZIN GYATSO (B. 1936)

When Ego Reigns

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Through my own spiritual walk in life I’ve dealt with my own inflated ego from time to time and having to kick myself down a few notches in the past. And Karma has stepped in on more than one occasion and taken me backwards on my path and even just put severe halts to any advancement or windows of opportunity opening for me until I sorted that crap out. Spiritual superiority we could call it. Many on a spiritual path will encounter this phase in their spiritual development in varying degrees. This is a period where the ego is forced to undertake a spiritual journey of its own and course correct. In other words FIX IT.

People from all walks of life with skills of any kind go through this, but especially; people with artistic skills (like actors, artists, performers, etc), people who are in a position of perceived power, spiritual path walkers (priests, nuns, monks, etc..) and those on healing paths (doctors, nurses, holistic healers, etc..). This high and mighty ego attitude needs to be worked out asap. And believe me, it has to be faced. 

I’ve recently been exposed to a spiritual person who is dealing with a huge ego complex. I doubt I would have seen the signs had they not been so much like me a couple years ago. It was painful to watch. Yes, painful for those who seek wise counsel and healing from this person, but also painful to see this person not see it within themselves. And here I was standing in front of them, seeking counsel and direction. Considering I was one who was purposefully choosing to take two steps back in my own personal development because I needed clarity on which way to turn. The solid ground I had when I lived in Virginia was such a clear path but when we moved to New Jersey it was like I was back in high school not knowing what I wanted out of life. And somehow this incredibly gifted individual standing before me as a potential teacher and mentor turned into a mirror reflection of what was once me (and who knows may try to get me again some day). And in turn it was not their teaching and guidance that gave me clarity, but it was their own ego that reminded me I already knew the answers to the questions I sought. But more importantly I also needed the reminder of where I stood not so long ago, so that I don’t have to relive those lessons learned right now or subject others to it here on my present path.

And I think also to share with you as readers of my blog, to remember that we ‘re all human and prone to the ego no matter how white light and pure our intentions. People turn to spiritual people and healers during their their darkest hours at times and may overlook an ego riding high because they need a powerful in charge person to guide them. Or, they may just be so overwhelmed with a persons gifts, insight or positive spirit they don’t see that the healer forgot to check their ego at the door. And while that person will likely very much be able to help you, may be super equipped to heal you, give spiritual guidance, give oracle readings, reiki, or even be able to teach you and pass on gifts to you, be sure not to adopt the ego they may carry into a session and bring it home or into your own practice. Learn to see the signs. And if you are close with someone who may be a gifted spiritual being of light who also happens to be riding high on their own ego, help them. Talk to them. It tarnishes their halo and only makes the karma they have to clear on themselves that much heavier.

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The essence of true faith and spiritual devotion are beyond the scope of ego and beyond the scope of just pure book knowledge. There’s a difference between knowing a path and walking the path. The same holds true as a holistic healer. You can be taught but you also must FEEL that healing energy, just knowing it in your head doesn’t make it so. And when it comes to comparing yourself to other people who do holistic healing, stop and check yourself. Believing your way is the ONLY way or is the BEST way for everyone is a nasty trap of an inflated ego. Watch your words, they should only be to heal.

As Lao Tzu says, “He who knows does not speak. He who speaks does not know.”

If you find yourself or a spiritual adviser belittling that which they don’t have first hand knowledge of in order to sway someones belief system towards their own, red flags should be thrown down. You can speak your truth without diminishing others. Even the most spiritual of people have bad days, and having enough courage to be honest with your emotions is a key ingredient for liberation from self centered ego. If you make a mistake, admit it. If you’re having and off day, say so.

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A “Messiah complex. ? Though it’s important to be of service to others, as human beings we are above no one. We are all only human and what one may be able to do better than their sister the one day, the next day sis may rise above. Those on a spiritual path who deal with holistic healing ebb and flow, evolve, regress and evolve again. This is something we need to acknowledge. There is no high and mighty.

 

 

 

Signs your ego is in control and not you – Awareness is key!

  • Does it feel empowering to talk about others flaws? Perceived or otherwise? Do you negative talk fellow spiritual leaders and teachers instead of just focusing on your own path?
  • Do you just have to WIN that argument? I’m not talking clarity of point, I’m talking do you have to make the other person agree with you to justify your own beliefs. Make them come over to “Your Side”?
  • Do you play the comparison game? Do you elevate yourself above other’s in the spiritual community? Do you imply or otherwise say your healing gifts are better than so and so’s?
  • Are you jealous at the success of others? Especially within your community of healers and teachers?
  • Do you promote your business during a session instead of focusing on the session and the person you are helping?

Take a step back and analyze why you’re doing it. Is it fear? Is it lack of belief in yourself? Is it for financial gain? I know that this experience and choosing to write about it and leaving it here will serve as a constant reminder to me to always take a step back and humble myself and check on the status of my ego. Often facing the truth is the hardest to do but the easiest and quickest route to getting past it and taking that crown off your head and just come back to being the amazing beacon of light you really are.

 

 

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*Ultimately the people who have unwittingly chosen abusive teachers along the way on their spiritual path sometimes have mixed feelings about the experience, feeling strangely grateful, because it can teach you a lot and make you much more careful. 

Thank you to Nouk Sanchez for writing such an important insightful article, please continue on to Nouk’s Blog to learn traits of the ego phase and the spiritual ego checklist. It’s am important read about Ego and the holistic healing arts. 
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In This Present Moment

MEDITATE | JOURNAL
Being present is really about focused awareness of what you are feeling and experiencing in the present moment. Meditation is a great way to become aware of your inner thoughts and emotions that are bubbling to the surface. You can use meditation to quiet your thoughts that are taking you out of the present moment. Thoughts like worrying about something that’s in the future. As time passes that “thing” you are focused on in the future could alter anyway due to all sorts of variables, so why are you worrying in the NOW? Use candles and either some sandalwood or palo santo incense to help you relax and refocus.  I write, journal and blog as a way to release thoughts and emotions. It releases stress and also allows me, once I’ve written it out, to bring myself back to the present moment.

 

MOVEMENT | BODYFLOW
Some times we all need to get out of our own head. Stop thinking and move! Go to a yoga class or pick any from YouTube for free to do. They have them for every level and you can even find short 15 minute Vinyasas. Take your meditation outside and do a walking meditation. Put some music on and dance like no one’s watching. If you’re at the office, take a short break and use the stairs! Or stand up right there by your desk and shake it out, move your shoulders and neck. Workout, hike, go for a swim, something to release pent up energy. Pent up energy can cause things like writers block and can get your mind stuck on something, release that block with some movement. This will help your energy to become fluid and can be like a breath of fresh air!

 

NATURE | GROUNDING
Nature never stops, it may move slowly but it keeps flowing. Connect to the earth’s natural energy, it will ground you. Earthing can diminish fatigue, so put your bare feet to the ground, the sand and soak up those free electrons!

FEEL IT | RELEASE IT
We have a bad habit of compartmentalizing things and minimizing the feeling of negative emotions by not focusing on what specifically we are feeling or wanting. We have to honor ourselves by facing our feelings. Only then, can we either release it our find forward momentum and flow down a path to fixing it or getting whatever it is. We aren’t robots. We have emotions that we need to share with ourselves and others with honesty and grace. 

UNPLUG| JUST BE
Step away from the phone. Step away from the computer. Put down the laptop. Turn off the TV. How long has it been since you’ve just spent time with yourself in a moment without all the constant input visually and audibly from the constant hum of, at it’s basic, electricity? We have a constant barrage of sensory input every minute of the day. And most of that isn’t related to nature or even meditative or relaxing music. Take a sensory moment to just stop inputting data and just be. 

Matthieu Ricard’s Thought of the Week

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Anger and hatred are our real and constant enemies. It is they, not our temporary adversaries, that we need to fight and conquer. As we have not trained our minds to weaken their power to harm, those emotions continue to disrupt and negate all our efforts for inner peace.

Summarized and adapted from Les voies spirituelles du bonheur, Presses du Chatelet, Paris, 2002; Points Sagesse, Seuil, 2004. English version: The Compassionate Life, Shambhala 2003

FOURTEENTH DALAI LAMA, TENZIN GYATSO (B. 1936)

Matthieu Ricard 
Buddhist Monk, Photographer, Author and Humanitarian