💙How’s the weekend goin’ everybody?
Keith and I just finished Speed 3.0 T25!!! Crazy fun sweaty messy hair (I don’t care) workout 😅‼️ And I wanted to take a minute and talk to the ladies…. Guys OUT!
👀Ok guys are gone right? 👀 Hope so cuz it’s confession time….
Do you know that I used to HATE selfies, still do. I told people they were dumb and pointless. I have very few photo’s of me that are over two years old. I still do small touch ups on my face (really, my wrinkles) when I don’t have make up on, which isjust about every selfie I take now a days. Like the one above 👆🏼 I touch that up because I would with makeup. But that being said, I don’t touch up weight, curves, that kind of thing. Never have, never will. Nooooo if I were so self conscious of my weight I just wouldn’t take the selfie. And that WAS me for a long long time. And it was dumb. It was even one of the reasons I quit being a coach before. I didn’t want people to see me.
I wanted to talk to just you girls tonight. I know guys are sensitive😘 too. But I know you ladies can maybe relate a little better to where I was when I started my weight loss journey. Maybe you can relate too well even 😢
Have you ever…
- been that girl who sat on her bed in the bedroom, staring into the closet and crying because nothing fit and yet needed to be ready by a certain time, that anxiety?
- started a fitness plan, got tired or sore and just kinda quit?
- or messed up a day or two and figured “I failed”, may as well just not do it?
- felt uncomfortable in your own skin?
- been that girl who avoided family photo’s?
- posted photo’s of a family/friend get together and omitted the ones of yourself?
- avoided looking in the mirror a little too long?
- not bothered getting a hairstyle or mani/pedi because, why bother? Or worse, I don’t deserve it?
Me too 😢
I have been the girl who went to bed saying “I’ll start fresh tomorrow”, then something happens and I found myself eating half a box of donuts and that tomorrow came and went. I was over weight, smoked, had dark circles under my eyes, horrid skin, and was very very unhappy.
And I’m not gonna sugar coat it. It’s NOT all nutrition and exercise. That would be too easy. Seriously, that’s the easy part! You gotta get out of your own way. You have to push away the voices that are telling you things like; you can’t change, you’ll always be fat, or you’ll always be ugly. And they’re right. If you keep listening to your own negative back talk and treating yourself like your less than human, YOU won’t change. The change has to begin with you getting out of your own self defeating self dehumanizing ways.
I decided to try something new. I got out of my own way. I realized I didn’t want to spend my whole life hating who I was. Because it had nothing to do with how overweight or skinny I was, or how pretty I was or wasn’t. You know all that kindness, time, patience and love you give everyone else in your life? It’s time to give the same to you yourself. Start talking to yourself like you talk to those you cherish. Start treating yourself like you do the people you hold near and dear 💞
So how did and do I combat all of it?
- Self Esteem
- Weight Loss
I now surround myself with people who give positive vibes, and support me in my journey. They motivate me when I need a kick in the booty. I am continuously trying to better myself by feeding my mind body and soul with personal development, good nutrition and meal planning, and daily fitness that not only makes me stronger and healthier; it puts me in a good mood and gives me the confidence in myself to reach further every day to be the best me I can be. AND, I step away from anyone and and anything that doesn’t support me and my goals.
I’m learning to love myself…flaws, imperfections, every wrinkle, every inch of me, where I am right now this day in my journey. It’s still hard for me. And that’s why I wanted to take a minute and reach out to anyone who is where I was, even where I still am.
Despite how much I have love and respect for myself now, the two last photo’s I shared bring out so many insecurities. Despite all the amazing changes I see in my body, I remember how I felt, inside and out. And YOU, reading this (yeah even if you’re a guy. I know the guys didn’t realllly leave.), deserve to self respect and to love yourself too!! You deserve happiness and comfort in your own skin. And you deserve to be surrounded by supportive people.
I hope that it can inspire even just one person to make positive changes in their life. To help even one person accept themselves and get on the path to living a healthy self confident life.
If you want to talk about your health, weight loss, fitness goals or need some guidance on personal development, or challenge groups we run, just email me and we can set up a time for some