Ted-Talk: Why thinking you’re ugly is bad for you
About 10,000 people a month Google the phrase, “Am I ugly?” Meaghan Ramsey of the Dove Self-Esteem Project has a feeling that many of them are young girls. In a deeply unsettling talk, she walks us through the surprising impacts of low body and image confidence—from lower grade point averages to greater risk-taking with drugs and alcohol. And then shares the key things all of us can do to disrupt this reality.
Love yourself first, as you are RIGHT NOW. That’s where you need to start.
Worrier or Warrior?
Do you stress over even the little things; things you may not even have control over?
I was a major worrier, some time still am.
Maybe you aren’t but perhaps you are surrounded by them…
this is often not much better, maybe even worse.
Or it triggers your worry
Or you find yourself in an endless cycle of supporting each others negativity
Worriers spread doubt and oppress our own potential.
Worriers usually think they are helping you, some times even saving you.
When you are facing the big decisions in your life, there is no room for worry.
There is no room for fear. Logic yes, unrealistic or far reaching fears, NO.
Those people will say “well what if you fail?
What if it’s too hard?
What if you are never successful?
You know what you tell them…
What if I FLY!??
What if I am the catalyst that changes someones LIFE?
What if I CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE?
What if I CAN manifest my DREAMS and make them all TRUTHS?
WHAT IF I FEEL LIKE A WARRIOR, not a worrier?
Be the WARRIOR not a worrier!
And let them eat their words for breakfast!
I came across this article and although I’m working at it, I’m not always as articulate or can put my thoughts down into words. And THIS is exactly what I’ve been thinking about for a few weeks. Deciding happiness.
It doesn’t mean erase or ignore worry or anger. But what it does mean is to choose thoughts wisely with good vibes. Be constructive instead of destructive!
🌞and i simply decided to be happy🌞
💡👍🏽😉 So, let’s try on this behavior for a week:
Step 1) Wake up tomorrow and consider the miraculous fact that you’re even on the planet.
Step 2) List a few items you are grateful to have… anything between running clean water and trash pickup to a cancer-free body and people that love you.
Step 3) If you go over to social media, post something positive instead of something you find unacceptable. OR, if you can’t shake rage over injustice, then put something actionable on your social media, as in: “Injustice X is happening, please do Y to help.”
Step 4) Sit down with your loved ones and talk about only positive things over dinner. Yep. Just the good stuff. Set aside the hard and necessary and bothersome for a week. It’ll still be there. OR if you believe you need to discuss difficulties, discuss what you learned or hope to learn from a challenging experience.
Step 5) Repeat as often as possible.
Source: Human Unlimited
This was spot ON for me! Finding my sense of self has been a struggle for me most of my life. I’ve been finally finding my true sense of self and direction I want to go in and my mood has elevated x 1000. And I do always need to keep evolving and growing or I get very stuck until I’m inspired again. This is one reason why I believe so strongly in personal development. Trying new things, traveling and expanding my horizons, and continuing to dream big and evolve keep life happy and vibrant for me. I don’t do well with complacency or stringent routine. I could NEVER work a 9 to 5 desk job. When I’ve been in any job remotely similar I get depressed and find zero sense of achievement or job satisfaction. I love adventuring, exploring, learning and new ideas!
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
You haven’t developed your sense of self.
Leos are happiest when they know themselves. This is tricky, however, because of course your sense of self has to evolve as you do – your idea of who you are must keep evolving, otherwise you’ll become stuck and complacent.
Check Yours Out
I’ve been practicing this really simple meditation in the morning and it’s really making the start to my day more positive and motivated as I go forward through my day. It’s good to set intentions first thing in the morning so your day is focused.
- Find a place where you won’t be interrupted. Or maybe even somewhere in nature.
- Find a comfortable position and posture. You can sit or even lay down, just be comfortable and try and keep your back straight.
- You – Think of a moment when you felt great joy and happiness in your life. Focus on that feeling and say to yourself: “May I be happy.” – “May I be healthy” – “May I live with ease.” … Give at least 2 minutes to each sentence before you move on to the next. Focus on your body. Feel how you relax and open and your senses open.
- A good friend or loved one – Remember a happy moment you had together. Imagine them in a happy mood. Focus on that person and say to yourself: “May _ be happy.” – “May _ be healthy” – “May _ live with ease.” … Pause and reflect for at least 2 minutes after each sentence before moving to the next.
- Think of an acquiescence or someone you don’t know well – The coffee guy, a Facebook friend, or the lady that checks you out at the grocery store. Imagine them in a good mood. Focus on that person and say to yourself: “May _ be happy.” – “May _ be healthy” – “May _ live with ease.” … Pause and reflect for at least 2 minutes after each sentence before moving to the next.
- Think of a difficult person – Someone who’s hurt you or made your life difficult. Or someone who’s made someone else’s life difficult or hard. Imagine them making life better for others. Focus on that person and say to yourself: “May _ be happy.” – “May _ be healthy” – “May _ live with ease.” … Pause and reflect for at least 2 minutes after each sentence before moving to the next.
- Now think of the world – People across the sea, people in another state, people near and far. Imagine them in a happy mood. Focus on humanity and say to yourself: “May the world be happy.” – “May the world be healthy” – “May the world live with ease.” … Pause and reflect for at least 2 minutes after each sentence before moving to the next.
- Now imagine yourself wandering through this new world everyone’s smiling, happy and living healthy and with peace. … Pause and reflect for at least 2 minutes after each sentence. Then slowly allow yourself to release from the meditation.
I had (and still have) soooo many issues to get past if I was every going to get anywhere. With myself, my goals, my coaching, my life!
Some had to do with FEAR, some had to do with needing TONS more personal development to get over issues I’ve had since childhood, most was getting over and past myself and all the doubts in my own head, and some had to do with this.
Jealousy – Envy
Dirty words, aren’t they? Really?
I allowed myself, jealousy and envy of others success to take me places mentally, no one should ever go to. It was never that I wanted someone else to fail. I celebrated others success but I let their success mix with my lack of success and let it pull me down, reallllly down. I allowed it to make me feel less than…
And as you’d expect, it just will set you up for major failure and spin you around that hamster wheel of self doubt. I’m here to tell you NO. Don’t go there, EVER.
We are ALL capable
We are all superstars in the making
We are all worth it
We CAN all achieve our goals
In our own time. Because there is room for ALL of us. So YOU, there, sitting quietly in the corner, reading blogs, seeing success of your friends or family pour in. Watching as others claim the prize. Don’t you dare quit, don’t you dare quit on yourself. And seriously, NOT because someone else achieved something you haven’t, YET!
Personal Development Wisdom: This is one of my very favorite personal development reads. I go back to this every so often to remind myself of the lessons. Personal development is HUGE when it comes to dealing with issues of low self esteem, self confidence, or negative thinking. Some times you just have to get out of your own head. Stop being the one who’s putting you into that funk your in and rise above all the self depreciating vibes you throw at yourself. And instead learn some valuable life lessons to help you treat yourself and the world around you better. It’s a key ingredient for ANY kind of success! When you treat others better, give respect and care, you will inherently feel better within 💛
The Four Agreements
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
– don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
How to live The Four Agreements
I LOVE Mermaids
I LOVE Dolphins
I LOVE anything that has to do with the sea
It’s a newer obsession of mine, seeking my artistic side. Art and crafty type hobbies were not something I grew up with. I came from a very practical household. Artsy type endeavors were considered frivolous and a waste of money and time. This kind of sentiment is something that’s been bred into me and my own nature. To a point I was kind of fearful of it.
But now as I explore more and more that artsy side of myself I’m finding it to be really meditative and so good for my state of mind. I will definitely be throwing myself more and more into areas of life I’ve avoided because of how I was raised. It’s mind expanding and liberating to try out simple things like painting that were never part of my childhood.
Thanks to The Mermaid Factory for a fun place to create, dream, imagine, grow and allow us all to nurture the artist within We’ll be back to do the dolphin!
“Some day you will be old enough to start reading fairy tales again.”
― C.S. Lewis
“It’s about a girl who is on the cusp of becoming someone.. A girl who may not know what she wants right now, and she may not know who she is right now, but who deserves the chance to find out.”
― Jodi Picoult, My Sister’s Keeper
“Everything seemed possible, when I looked through they eyes of a child.
And every once in a while; I remember,
I still have the chance to be that wild.”
― Nikki Rowe
“We nurture our creativity when we release our inner child. Let it run and roam free. It will take you on a brighter journey.”
― Serina Hartwell
“Acknowledge your inner child. Even though we have found the light in ourselves today, we sometimes forget to heal old wounds of our past. Your inner child still needs to be loved in order to heal the complete self.”
― Karen A. Baquiran