If we were having coffee

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long before I actually started learning more about my spiritualism I actually held many of the principals of a Buddhist deep within who I was as a person, and had zero clue it was a Buddhist way of living life. I was raised Catholic and for a long time studied different religious paths trying to put the pieces together into something that felt like a right path but which had a simple direct no frills line of reasoning. After many years I am finding my heart home mostly within Buddhism.

I always felt a wanting of a deeper connection to people. I never cared for or felt comfortable with what I perceived as talk about the weather type conversations. I always had a need to “get” people on a more spiritual level. And that doesn’t mean a specific religious doctrine, but on a what makes you tick kind of level. Suffice to say a lot of people aren’t like that and have trouble with someone trying to connect too fast. But the more I learned about my own spiritual path the more I found it’s because of my spiritual self ย is the reasonย the why I long to connect with people on a deeper level than just the, “how do you do” pleasantries.

This blog was one way for me to actually try to just talk about myself more openly and randomly about the weather to people lol. To learn to step back and learn to love the process of simple pleasantries in conversation and presentation. Whenever I found myself in situations meeting new people I often just appeared shy and reserved because I didn’t partake in the uncomfortable act of casual conversation. I still tend to stay pretty quiet and just observe people and get to know them better until deeper conversation starts. To a lot of people over the years I guess maybe they thought I just didn’t want to get to know them. When in fact it was the complete opposite. But humans are guarded, even I am. And it takes time to build the trust with some people before they want to open up to you. Once again in many ways I can be like that too. But ask me about deeper subjects and I will sit down over a cup of tea or coffee at some fabulous coffee shop, cafe or tea emporium and chat with for hours over religion, war, peace, alternative healing, etc…

This article I just read I think touches on the type of friendship I offer and can find a connection with. I am always searching for personal growth and good conversation.

Making Friends on the Buddhist Path

#weekendcoffeeshare

If We Were Having Coffee

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Health and living life to it’s fullest has been on my mind a lot lately. As well as self improvement and not being lazy about it.

Life is such a balancing act isn’t it?Like a huge puzzle that takes time to interlock all the right pieces to make us whole. Lately I’ve beenย trying to retrace steps that were effective and long lasting for my health. And to dabble in and experiment with new things to make life more alive, longer and more fun. I’m trying to ย gain inner peace and add excitement to every day living.

It’s a goal I guess, ย many of us have. Finding harmony between the, physical, emotional, personal and professional aspects of our lives. We all seek to enrich our lives and too often we fall back into the easy immediate gratification ways to do that. And more often than not, doing so knocks the harmony we are so eagerly trying to achieve, off balance.

I’ve thoughtย that a doughnut will make me feel better. And yeah, it will for a moment. And while there may be nothing (fundamentally) wrong with having a doughnut once in a while, it’sย going for that doughnut as gratification for something else that’s lacking. Now there’s where my problem is.

I’ve been one of those people. And more than once in my life. Let’s face it, life can be hard. Life can suck and it can kick your feet right out from under you once in a while. Life has moments of being unfair and ruthless. But I, we don’t have to let those moments defeat or define us.

We work with food and exercise to care for our physical selves. But we need to remember, toย care for our emotional self. Meditation has been a life saver for me with this. Meditation calms me.ย Meditation awakens my mind to new ideas and ways of tackling challenges in life.ย I seem to get the most out of meditation when I am in nature, ย near wildlife. Nature allows me to focus and exhale the crap from my mind.

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In this ever changing modern world filled with the latest technology it becomes increasingly important to unplug and not just go to nature but be a part of the whole experience. The more I focus on the intricacies of a tree, or moving stream, roar of the ocean, or habits of wildlife in their environment, the easier it is when it comes to narrowing down focus on my day to day matters. You’ve heard the phrase, “don’t sweat the small stuff”, haven’t you? Well, meditation reminds me what the small stuff is and allows me to focus on what matters most.

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To gain perspective….

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“There are so many joys to be gathered watching wildlife and one of the greatest is when we feel we have blended into the landscape and become part of the day, night, or ecosystem. Our pursuit of the little details of nature โ€“ a species of moth or a type of birdsong โ€“ are intrinsically pleasurable but they are also sense sharpers, that bring us alive to the possibilities in a landscape: the muntjac standing quietly behind us, the crackle of autumn leaves, the pong of the honey fungus.

They give us an excuse to loiter in a landscape, to stand still and simply be. They are a pathway to a much broader experience. On my nights out, I realised I was not really badger watching at all, I was dusk watching, listening to the creatures of the day as they were superseded by the creatures of the night, with their rustles and screams and unfathomable signals which I did not comprehend but could still savour.” ~ Patrick Barkham

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Being near the ocean is my favorite place to meditate, or just BE. ย The sound of the waves, the ocean mist on my face, the sun warming my skin, just basking in the hugeness that is the vast ocean expanse. I feel re-charged and ready to tackle life after a day at the ocean and bit of meditation.

Meditation is kind of like a vacation re-boot for myย inner well being. It’s so hard for people to shut off and out of technology these days our minds never stop thinking about a zillion things at once. Letting nature in and becoming a part of meย levels the playing field and mentally refreshesย me.

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In the past I’ve focused wayyyy to muchย on calories and DIEts! What what I need to focus on is loving myself enough to not want to injure my health with foods or really, non foods that are in no way adding to my longevity or health. We should all try and find a healthy relationship with real food. Over the years as consumers we’ve added more and more unnatural garbage into our diets. Fruit which is naturally sweet, to some doesn’t even taste sweet anymore because we are so used to manufactured cakes, deserts and artificial sweeteners. We lose sight of the fact that sugar is in everything that pre-packaged and mass produced and white sugar is as addictive as drugs if used often and in larger quantities.

I’m learning the process of mindful eatingย which is helping me so much in terms of combating the unhealthy relationships I’ve learned over the years. Learning to love myself with the food I put in my body instead of just comforting myself with food because of external stresses has been HUGE in permanent change in eating habits. Mindfulย eating makes me slow down and focus on why Iย do what Iย do and how it makes meย feel. Usually your body will tell you if you ate something good for it, or something that would cause an adverse reaction. Here’s a better explanation of mindful eating if you’re interested in knowing more.

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I’ve also decided to go back to having a meal replacement shake and or green juice/smoothie daily. ย I overeat at night because I don’t eat right during the day. I don’t get enough vitamins and minerals because I usually have little appetite during the day. A few years ago I tested out quite a few protein shakes. My favorite for flavor, texture, and overall health benefits is Vegan Shakeology. And I tried a zillion of them. So between that in the afternoon with a salad and vegetarian protein and juicing or acai bowl in the mornings I will be sure to get my dose of vitamins and minerals. And also will stop overeating at dinner and going to bed on a stuffed tummy! ย Sometimes you have to re-learn your proven lessons more than once lol. ย It’s all about finding out what works for you. What will keep you healthy, help you live longer and help you achieve whatever goals you set!

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I love rainy days! Sitting down with a cup of tea ย (or coffee ๐Ÿ˜Šโ˜•)ย and pouring myself into a good book is an amazing day! I’m currently reading (finally Girl On a Trainย and after that I am doing Prince Lestat & Prince Lestat and the Realms of Atlantisย and them move onto The Wolf Gift. I’m a HUGE Anne Rice fan! ย But I’m always looking for new reads so recommend a book to me and have a beautiful Sunday and fabulous week!

 

 

 

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